Mother urges parents to discuss sexual abuse with children

Mother urges parents to discuss sexual abuse with children

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LUBBOCK, Texas -

It can be a tough conversation to have, but an important one. Your child could be a victim of sexual assault or abuse. While it is scary, one parent believes it is crucial to discuss.

Kimberly Akins is a mother of two and a blogger. She chose to write about abuse during sexual assault awareness month. She said she believes no age is too young to start talking about boundaries. By giving them tools now, she said it will allow them to understand if they are a victim and how to never become an abuser.

"So many families don't have these conversations because they're awkward or they are heavy," Akins said.

Akins said the number one and most important rule is to teach kids to use correct terms for all body parts. 

"It's of higher risk for a predator because they know that child likely has pretty open discussions with their parents," Akins said. "They could report things pretty accurately." 

She also teaches her kids, my body, my rules.

"At a very young age, we ask our kids, 'would you like a hug? would you like a goodnight kiss?' and give them the chance to say no," Akins said. "Every time you respect their decision, you teach them that a good safe adult will respect their answer about their body, they will listen." 

Derek Danner with Children's Advocacy Center said Akins is setting a good example. He said it is a tough reality for parents to come to terms with, but by just talking with kids, they are making a difference.

"It's going to help keep them safe," Danner said. "They're not with you 24/7, 365." 

He said to keep in mind, between 93 and 97 percent of children know their abusers. 

"It's not a stranger in the while panel van any longer," Danner said.

Akins said it not about having one big talk, but creating an environment where your kids feel comfortable confining in you.

"It's really everyday things parents can do that help our kids in ways we can't imagine," Akins said. 

She adds, pay attention to technology. She said, instead of letting your kids ask Siri or Google about anything sex-related, make sure they feel comfortable asking you. 
 

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