Mother shares early pregnancy loss story, as Lubbock PILA memori

Mother shares early pregnancy loss story, as Lubbock PILA memorial is coming up

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LUBBOCK, Texas -

One million pregnancies, or about one in four, end in loss each year in the U.S., according to the Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness (PILA) organization.

"I remember just praying, hoping just some kind of hope that he was going to make it and in and out hospitals, my body didn't handle his pregnancy very well, and then on November 26, 2002, we lost him," Angela Garza, a mother of four, said.

A 2015 national survey published in the Obstetrics and Gynecology journal reported only 45 percent of women felt they received adequate emotional support following a miscarriage, showing it can be a silent tragedy.

"It's a subject I find that people don't want to touch. They don't know how to react. They say I'm sorry for your loss and although I do appreciate the 'I'm sorry's', we need to bring awareness to it," Garza said. 

Garza said it is best to open up and seek emotional support.

"Keeping the silence, it can really weigh heavy on your heart. For me personally, keeping silent, it is something that builds up and builds up and builds up, and there's no outlet, and then you get swung into a really dark depression, and you don't want to talk to anybody, and you don't want to communicate, and you pull away from your family, and that's not healthy for anybody," Garza said.

The 2015 survey found the majority of women who lost their baby in pregnancy felt less alone when they talked to others about their own miscarriages. 

Suzy Emre, the president and founder of PILA Lubbock, said the organization is there to provide this necessary space and solace. 

"We do have an online support group. We post daily on our website, encouraging posts that help these women, and families, know that they are not alone," Emre said.

Garza said PILA's help, emotionally, is invaluable. 

"I know that they are there that's going to help a grieving mother, whether it is 20 years out or brand new, a week out. They're an organization that is there for you. They are there to comfort you, help you, guide you, get you resources that you need to have," Garza said.

Emre said stories like this can inspire others in a time of grief. 

"I think it shows that there is life after loss because I think a lot of people who have just gone through that loss do not realize that, yes you can laugh again, you can smile again, and not feel guilty about it. I'm 19 years from my first loss, and you know, there is life after loss," Emre said.
PILA is hosting a memorial service next Tuesday to help remember the infants lost to early pregnancy loss. 

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